Why wet sex is more fun.

At least, it should be. Here is what you need to know.

Now, to be perfectly clear, I'm not necessarily talking about skinny dipping. Sex in natural open bodies of water, like lakes and the ocean, is a whole other topic.  And one we probably should talk about soon.  The short version: Be careful, because there are a few things you need to be concerned about, including pollution, bacteria, etc.

But getting back on track: I'm talking about sex in man-made water bodies: The shower, bath, and even your pool or hot tub.

If you're planning on having some fun in the water, there are a few practical things you should know, as well as a few tips for making it amazing. Let's start with the practical advice:

First, know how lubrication happens: Naturally

Whether you're in for a quickie in the shower, or a slow and fun interlude in the bath, it's important to know what impact water can have on sex.

When a woman becomes turned on, her vagina starts producing it's own lubrication.  The first inch or so of the vagina is called the vaginal epithelium, basically the walls of the vagina. When she gets turned on, the walls of the vagina begin to swell, and start to produce a slippery fluid, first inside the vagina, and as the fluids build up, they start to run and leak outside of the vagina. To make things even more fun, the labia minora - the smaller lips around her vagina - start to produce a kind of lubrication of their own.

We'll talk about lubrication alternatives a little later, but for now the key things to know about a woman's lubrication are:

  1. A woman's natural lubricant is produced to make sex more comfortable.
  2. Her natural lubricant is critical to increase pregnancy success.

IMPORTANT: If you're trying to get pregnant, avoid sex in water.  There are enough issues you need to deal with, so why add more stress. There are a hundred other types of fun you can have (yes, I said it- you can have fun while trying to get pregnant).  So stop with the water play and get back to it using your own natural lubrication and other lube that doesn't damage sperm. Want to know more about how to increase the odds of pregnancy?  Let me know in the comments if you're interested and I'll make the time to write a how-to guide, as yours truly spent 3 years mastering the subject. Looking for a good lubricant to use while trying to conceive?  Try this Astroglide product made especially for trying to get pregnant.

Now, if you're not trying to get pregnant, but instead just trying to have fun, let's get back to the water:

The problem with water and sex

I wanted to get feedback from both men and women who had sex in the water, to get a better idea of what their individual experiences were.  Interestingly, and almost obviously, men seemed to enjoy it far more than women.  But when asked to rate lubrication of sex specifically, men typically ranked in-water sex (including the shower) at a 4 out of 10 (10 being best), compared to other sex outside of water, and with only natural vaginal lubricants, rated at an average 8 out of 10.  

Now this may at first seem like we're focusing on guys, but we're not. Women ranked sex in water as a 2 out of 10, citing discomfort from friction. Now that's the opposite of what you (especially if you're a guy) expected, right? Friction?  In the water?

The problem is, water is wet, but it's not slippery. A woman's natural lubrication is slippery, but water washes it away. And sex tends to flush water in and out of her vagina, washing all of it away.

This is a problem. One I believe is worth solving. That's where Organic Glide comes in.

Friction-free water play: Organic Glide

Water-based lubrications are almost always the best.  They're slippery and clean, and they also do a good job imitating nature.  Maybe you're too impatient, or maybe nature isn't doing good enough of a job and you need to supplement with a little more lubrication.  But the problem with most water-based lubrications is that water washes them away. So when you try to use them in the shower, bath or any other body of water, you find yourself with.... pretty much water. Which brings us back to friction, which we don't like.

We've tested a lot of products (yes, it's a difficult job) and found one product that really amazes: Organic Glide.  It's an organic, probiotic, 100% natural and vegetable-based. The consistency is more like a light lotion than a typical water-based lubrication.

The amazing part? It stays on in the water. While it's easy to clean off, it's the perfect lubrication to stay on during sex in the water, even underwater. The possibilities are endless for both women and men: Sex and masturbation take on a whole new dimension with lubricant that stays on, even when fully submerged in water.  The texture is clean, soft, and it comes out of the tube a little like a light cream, so it's easy to control without dripping, and not runny like water. And a little goes a long way.

This blog post is focused on lubrication during sex in water.  Hopefully we covered the basics:

  • Water washes away normal lubrication, which can make sex uncomfortable
  • If you're trying to get pregnant, avoid sex in water
  • Of all the lubrications out there, Organic Glide is our favorite and makes submerged and shower sex - and even self-pleasure - an incredible, pleasurable experience for both her and him

Go have fun tonight, and make it safe sex!

Are you ready for the 2020 Tokyo Olympics?

With Rio coming to a close, we have four years before the Olympics hit Tokyo. The first thing that I think about when the Olympics closes in one country is that the training starts all over again.

Now's a perfect chance to take stock of your body, mind, and spirit. How do you feel today? More important, how do you want to feel in 2020?  Now's the time to start training.

Most marathon trainers offer 18-week intensive training courses.  What if you gave the same training a whole year instead?  How much easier would it be to get into a groove that you can turn into a habit, one that's sustainable? Now, imagine your progress over four years...

Improving your sex life doesn't just happen from one change. Often, it's a number of changes that take place. Getting in better shape is certainly one. Just going running a mile, or a few miles a day, is enough to start the blood flowing and oxygen pumping through your body and mind. A more positive outlook is a result. You'll sleep better, which means you'll wake up more rested. Which means your day may be that much more productive.

I could go on and on. The point is, think about your gold medal in 2020, and realize that the training starts today.  Don't wait for January 1. Start now, and get better, a little at a time, every day.

You may just find yourself in a contact sport with one (or more) players during training season.

Cheat on your boss

The irony of modern life is that we expect to have more time to enjoy the things we work so hard for, but in reality the work and busyness is the biggest impediment to our own personal well-being and pleasure.

When was the last time you called your spouse or significant other and said, "let's cheat.. meet me at home today." You could do it right now if you want. What would you miss?  Another call? Another order?  Another transaction you won't remember a year from now from a customer you can't name for a product you can't recall?

Call your lover. Right now. Go home and just be together. You don't need to force it, and you don't even need to have sex.  Just be together, even if it means turning off your smartphones and just talking for awhile.

If you want to find some ways to relax, there are a ton:

  • Take a long, hot shower together.  There's almost nothing better than taking a shower together when you're not purposefully in a rush to get out, get dressed and be somewhere. Get out the shower gel and take turns washing each other.  And guys, there's almost nothing more beautiful to your lover than slowly and lovingly washing and conditioning her hair.  Ask her how she likes it.  And take the time to give a gentle scalp massage with the shampoo or conditioner still in.
  • In the shower you can always groom each other.  Do either of you shave, legs or even more?  Offer to shave each other. Guys will find that focusing on their lover like this can quickly get their minds focused on anything but work, with a rock-hard erection as absolute proof.
  • Ask each other where it hurts: Do you have a sore back, tired feet, or neck pain? Take turns teaching each other where to massage, and how to massage.  Remember, few people are expert massage therapists, so be patient with each other and communicate about what feels good, what to do more of, and what to do less of.
  • Enjoy a glass of wine, or champagne.  If you want, cook or bring home something yummy. And it doesn't need to be a full meal. Sometimes just a taste or dessert is enough to escape from the day's routine.
  • You can even go for a run. Most couples don't give working out together the credit it deserves. Exercise clears the mind, releases endorphins, and relaxes. Sometimes a few miles or a few yoga flows can be the best foreplay.
  • Plan to go at it more than once.  Most couples find that sex becomes an accomplishment if it happens at all. Do you remember the old days (younger days for some of us!) where sex wasn't just a one-climax event? Talk to each other, and if you want to keep going, keep going! Plan for his requisite recovery, and realize that he'll probably even last longer the second time around.  And don't be overly formal about it- if you need help, ask for it. There's nothing wrong with grabbing a tube or lube and masturbating to get ready again. When it comes to sex, the ends justify the means!

I hope you find some time to cheat on your boss this week! Your significant other will thank you.

The Better Sex Guru

I am so glad you're here.  I'm James, the Better Sex Guru.

I started this blog to inspire, to learn and to educate. I believe everyone benefits by learning more about sex. So please relax, take your time to read, comment and share what you like that you find here. For each person that will be different, but I believe that we all want to have better sex. 

I spent the past two decades experimenting and discovering techniques, practices and concepts for better sex. It's not surprising that we all want more and better sex. What is surprising is that there are literally hundreds of mental, emotional, physical and even spiritual ways to ignite or reignite your sex life, and improving your life, your body, your relationships, and even your career as a result. And so many people are going about it in so many wrong ways.

My goal is to change that. Sex is complicated. And for most people, it's a mystery. Sex is so much more than just physical, but ask anyone to explain what sex is and most of the time their answer includes intercourse, sex positions, and orgasms. 

BETTER SEX GOES BEYOND ORGASM

And that's where people confuse results vs. purpose. A mind-blowing orgasm may happen as a result of great sex, but great sex isn't a mind-blowing orgasm.  Great sex may include two people finding a deeper emotional connection, maybe even without words. It might be happiness, love, gratitude, and a myriad of other things we feel because of our lover's touch that conveys so much, again without words. Sex also builds confidence; No matter what popular culture says is beautiful, to be the object of affection in lovemaking makes us feel valued. Intercourse and various sexual positions can be used to get to an orgasm, but real, deep and intimate sex makes an orgasm earth-shattering and beautiful. 

On a scale of 1-10, ten being best, a regular climax is a 1.  Let's explore and discover 2, 3, 4.... all the way to a 10. Even an 11.

BETTER SEX FOR A BETTER LIFE

People often get so wrapped up in life that sex often takes a back seat. And yet it's the cornerstone of health, and an indicator of the health of our relationships and our mental state. Think of the last time you had amazing sex.  How did you feel afterward? Relaxed? Happy? Positive?  Ready to take on the world?  If we feel that way after great sex, why don't we make it a priority?

Everyone wants to have better sex, but there are numerous reasons people don't make it a priority. We're human. We worry. About how we look. About our weight. About a billion things in life. We also get busy. We focus on money.  We focus on work. Most of the worry is around career and money, otherwise defined as "success" in our society.  And success makes us sexy, right? 

Not exactly. 

Unfortunately, the mismatch of priorities can lead to more than just health problems.  When one partner in a relationship strays too far in their focus, either one or both partners starts seeking sexual satisfaction elsewhere. What was de-prioritized now leads to bigger problems, sometimes including cheating, divorce, and worse. Families can fall apart.

Can't we fix this?

I believe we can. I want to educate and inspire both individuals and couples. My belief is that if both partners understand how each other thinks, if sex can be "on the table" (figuratively, but maybe literally as well), then more mutual satisfaction is possible, and deeper and more meaningful and satisfying relationships can be the result.

So here's to better sex.  Let's get started.  Don't be shy.  Let's talk about sex.

Weightlifting for a healthy ROI

There are very few things in life that deliver amazing results, fast.  Weight lifting is one.

Consider this: Lifting weights just three days a week can:

  1. Reduce your risk of diabetes in only four months, according to a study performed at Tufts University. Weight training both decreases blood-glucose levels and simultaneously improves insulin sensitivity.
  2. Treat depression. This based on a research project at Harvard University who compared the benefits of weight training and cardio exercise over 10 weeks. Weight lifters experienced a greater mood boost compared to others.
  3. Elevate your testosterone levels by up to 49 percent, according to scientists in Finland. Testosterone plays a key role in your sex drive, and your overall mortality risk.
  4. Save your brain from a stroke, according to researchers in a University of Michigan study. Lifting weights decreases blood pressure, reducing the risk of a stroke by 40 percent

Guys, can you think of a reason to not start (or keep on) lifting weights?

Eat right, exercise, and... masturbate?

Everyone wants to be a better lover. Most men worry about how long they can last during sex. Many women hope that sex will leave them both feeling close and satisfied.

Talk to anyone privately about their sex life, and you'll discover a million reasons why it's not as good as they want it, but it all boils down to three root causes:

  1. Health
  2. Calm
  3. Practice

For anyone who reads the Better Sex Workout blog, you know my position is that balance is everything.  Balance in diet, exercise, state of mind. When any one of these shifts out out balance, the system falls apart.  You can overexercise or be a couch potato; You can eat to a fault and feel like crap, or you can starve yourself and lack energy; and you can even be in great shape, with a fantastic diet, but be working a crappy, soul-less job that you hate, feeling trapped and stressed out beyond belief.  When any one of these things gets out of whack, your ability to enjoy sex can suffer. For men, that could mean premature ejaculation,  difficulty getting an erection, or difficulty achieving orgasm.  For women, it usually means less or no pleasure during sex, pain or discomfort, and not achieving orgasm.

If this sounds like your situation, don't worry. You can turn it around.

This web site covers a lot of the basics - and a lot of details - about diet and exercise that can help you become healthier and happier, which in turn can help you enjoy a better sex life. But the bottom line is that you need to find something you love to stay active, and eat better.  If you haven't started this, just dig into the blog anywhere and read on.  You'll find amazing tips and tricks, and it's really not that hard.  What is harder is getting relaxed and building confidence. That's where strategic masturbation comes in.

Simply put, masturbation is amazing pre-flight training. You can do it in the safety of your own home, by yourself, and you can take the time to find out what you need to get in the mood, stay in the mood, enjoy and orgasm. For men, you can bring yourself to the edge of climax and stop without feeling awkward or guilty.  For women, you can experiment and identify what feels good that you can share with your lover when it's time. Think of it as risk-free practice for the real thing.

There are those out there who say masturbation is a bad thing.  Typically they site religious beliefs, false facts, or situations where masturbation isn't the cause, bit incidental to something negative.  When you stack of the pros of masturbation against the possible cons, it's hard to beat a self-pleasure session for achieving a relaxed, calm, and happy state of mind. 

Do you have an opinion about masturbation?  Share it in the comments with the Better Sex Workout community. 

Why massages are a win-win for workouts and sex

Today I'm going to give you a Better Sex Workout bonus.  I want you to go out and get a massage. I'm talking about a real massage from a licensed massage therapist who will, by the end of your massage, probably know your muscles and body better than you do.  In fact, I'm going to call this a double-bonus because a real massage has amazing benefits that you'll see and feel in your workouts, and also benefits you'll feel and experience during sex. Before I get into it, you should always check with your doctor before starting any kind of new regimen, especially if you have any injuries or other illnesses.  So go check with your doctor if you have any concerns before you go get that super massage.

The Better Sex Workout approach is about balance, which is why it's one of the easiest ways to feel better, look better and enjoy better sex almost right away. Adding massage to your routine may be the simplest and fastest way to improving your athletic and sexual potential.

How massage improves athletic performance

So what does a massage have to do with workout out? Almost everything: Massages actually help improve athletic performance. A properly trained and skilled massage therapist knows how to move your muscle and body tissues in a way that will help restore muscle elasticity and promote recovery of the same. Better blood flow that results forces waste products of the body (read = toxins) back into circulation and out of the muscles.  Anyone who's received a proper massage was probably told by the therapist at the end of the session to drink lots of water. This is because you need more fluid to get the toxins that have been released out of your body.  Before you know it, your muscles are less sore.

Don't worry, I'll get the sex part in a minute.

How massage can increase athletic potential 

But first, let's talk about flexibility and tissue quality. We're more and more sedentary as a society, especially those of us with desk jobs, like me sitting here typing this right now. Tightness forms from the postures we repeat over and over, and that tightness limits our performance and the fitness gains we expect from working out.  Put simply, regular massage can actually increase your athletic potential.

How massage can improve your sex

The improvement in circulation doesn't just help your major muscles, it also helps men and women get turned on faster, enjoy more sensation, and achieve more and stronger orgasms than you ever thought possible.  Improved blood flow is linked to an increase in emotional-physical response to sexual triggers.  Translation = Get your body moving and you can find yourself getting turned on faster.  

And improved blood flow for men means longer and harder erections. For women it can mean more sensitive everything: Vagina, labia, clitoris, breasts, nipples all get darker with the blood flow, more erect and much more sensitive.  This can mean more and even longer orgasms.

And massages have been shown to help release increased serotonin in the brain, which is the body's naturally produced feel-good drug that increases happiness, relaxation, and even self-confidence.   

Circling back to flexibility: Massages improve flexibility, which doesn't just improve athletic potential, it actually improves sexual potential.  The Yogasm Guide recently described it best: The ability to sling your partner's leg up over your shoulder can mean deeper penetration (which feels good to him), more stimulation of the cervix (which feels good to her) and creates the opportunity for so many more sexual positions (in Yogasm Guide language, read = poses).

Finding a massage therapist

You don't need to spend a fortune on a massage at the Ritz-Carlton or St. Regis, although I can attest the experience is incredible.  What you do want to do is find a massage therapist that is licensed, interview them, make sure you're comfortable with their skills, background and style, and try them out.  There are retail chains like Massage Luxe and then there are individual practitioners who make their living providing skilled massage therapy either traveling to you or having you to their location.  In any case, I have a few tips to share:

  1. Pick the gender you are most comfortable with.  Female, male, all that matters is that you feel comfortable.  I've had great massages from men, but I prefer a female touch.  And that's all that matters.
  2. Groom yourself in advance, but be careful.  Nearly all massage therapists will tell you they are OK with body hair that you feel awkward about.  But what matters is your own self-confidence.  If you need to shave or wax in advance to enjoy the massage, do it. But be careful: Don't ever massage freshly waxed skin.  The pores may still be open, which can result in irritation and even infection from massage and massage oils.
  3. Think about the kind of massage you want in advance.  This may vary based on how you feel.  Sometimes I want a deep tissue massage, which can be painful during the massage but rejuvenating afterwards. Other times a Swedish or soft-touch massage is what I need to relax.  Be clear with your therapist up front about what you want as a result, and let him/her help you decided.

I am looking for a massage therapist to come on to the podcast, so if you know a great one let me know!  Also please feel free to leave a comment.  It's good to be back and I'm looking forward to once again helping everyone here enjoy much better sex as part of their workout/life plan!

Better Sex Workout Podcast Episode 1: The Better Sex Workout Approach

Hi everyone!  We experienced some tech problems with the launch of the podcast, so we've moved the podcast for now, and the iTunes Store will catch up to it in the next 24-48 hours.

In the meantime, the podcast is hosted here and can be streamed live on our blog.  Let me know what you think in the comments!

Listen to it while working out!

Better Sex Workout Episode 1: Show Notes

The first episode! An introduction to the Better Sex Workout philosophy and approach: A balanced, individual approach that maximizes success differently for any person.

Will try to keep the show to target 25 minutes for now. Looking forward to bringing on inspiriting and exciting guests to talk about workout, diet and sex.

Epic5 Ultra Triathlon and Rich Roll, who I talk about as an inspiration

Some "fad" and popular all-in workouts and diets:

About Yoga in general

Erectile dysfunction

Orgasm recovery, also known as refractory period

The Better Sex Workout Podcast

The Better Sex Workout podcast is now on iTunes. Let's talk about exercise, working out, nutrition and how to improve your sex life!

The Better Sex Workout podcast is now on iTunes. Let's talk about exercise, working out, nutrition and how to improve your sex life!

I am really happy to share that the Better Sex Workout is also now a podcast on iTunes!

In the first episode of the podcast I share what the Better Sex Workout philosophy and approach is all about and why it works for anyone, because the approach is always individual. I also share a little bit about my own personal story that I think a lot of people can relate to.  I think anyone can relate to the Better Sex Workout approach, because it helps everyone at every age get more fit, be happier, and can help anyone enjoy much better sex. 

In fact, whether you're a girl or a guy, in your 20s, 30s, 40s, 50s or beyond, the approach just works: You can lose weight, feel better and be a more balanced and happier person. I started the Better Sex Workout blog and website because I discovered that there is no one size-fits-all diet or workout plan. I even selected my nutritionist because of what she said in our first meeting: "I don't have a prescribed diet. There is no one diet that works for multiple people." The point is, everyone is unique.

I started talking about that on the podcast. How I chose to give up alcohol, drop dairy, and even move more to a plant-based diet. For me, these things worked, in a certain order, and together with exercise I enjoy and love.  The reward of feeling better, and seeing the affects of reverse-aging both in the mirror and feeling reverse-aging when making love, is simply awesome.  I want you to be able to have the same kind of awesome experience and feeling, and I plan on sharing more and more of what worked, what didn't work, and what I keep trying and learning from, both here on the blog and now on the podcast!

Also, if you listen to the podcast, please give me your feedback!  This is the first podcast I've produced, and I know there's a lot of work to do. The volume is still a little low, the intro music may or may not stick. I don't have any guests yet, but I will soon!  Workout, food and sex are too fun to keep to myself.  Do you want to be a guest on the podcast?  Send me a message!

Why oral sex may be a sweeter deal for vegans

We already know there are benefits to switching to a plant-based diet. But did you know that vegans may actually be getting a sweeter deal when it comes to oral sex as well?

Start With the Basics

Just switching what's on your plate can make a difference in your energy levels.  Even if you're not inspired enough to start exercising, making a commitment to what you'll eat, and what you'll choose not to eat, can make an enormous difference in as little as three to four weeks. With greater energy levels, you'll be less tired, and more inclined to enjoy private time, either with your partner, or even for a solo session.

Try eliminating just one thing at a time. And when you do, make sure you play the mind game of reminding yourself what is OK to eat that you love. This is like rebounding from a bad relationship; Sometimes it is OK to date just for the distraction!

You'll Smell and Taste Better

Ever wonder why your deodorant seems to stop working? Or you suddenly stop liking your deodorant?  If you're a guy, ever wonder why the armpits of your undershirts get nasty so quickly?  

Your body is secreting fluids constantly, 24/7, even when you're sitting still. When you're idle, your skin is constantly breathing small vapors that you can't see. These same vapors condense and turn into beads, which is what we experience when we sweat. Everyone around us can pick up on these scents to varying degrees.  Women tend to be far more sensitive than men do, and it appears that the younger you are, the more sensitive you are to scents and smells as well.

If you want to smell better, cut out dairy and meats which leave animal by-products that must be ejected from your system, including through your sweat.

A Bonus for Better Sex

It's not just your scent that will be more pleasing.  Many people claim that other body fluids, including semen, taste sweeter on a plant-based diet.  The same may hold true for women: During foreplay, that sexy rush you feel causes beads of lubrication to secrete from the walls of the vagina, eventually getting bigger and flowing together, which is how sexual excitement results in being wet.

Yes, even oral sex may taste better on a plant-based diet!

Why a vegan diet can help you have better sex

I know a lot of vegans.  For them, veganism is more than a diet, it's part of a much bigger philosophical lifestyle choice. A vegan doesn't eat anything of animal origin and they won't even use animal-based products, be it for clothing, or any other purpose. Some of my vegan friends are vegans for animal rights, some for environmental factors.  What all of them have in common though, I can attest to, is better health.

I'm not a strict vegan. I occasionally eat meat, mostly fish and chicken. My diet does consist mostly of plants nowadays. When I turned 40, I noticed what had already been happening for at least five years, maybe the better part of a decade: My body wasn't processing foods the same way it always had when I was younger. I noticed this first with alcohol.  Even one or two drinks left me with extra baggage around the waist. Working out seemed more and more ineffective in trying to stay slim. Alcohol had to go, and it did.  I simply don't drink anymore, and my energy skyrocketed after several weeks. And the pounds started to melt off. One additional thing I was really happy to notice was an increased sex drive.  Erections started coming more often, sometimes in the middle of the day (anyone remember high school and college?). 

Letting go of alcohol was my first step toward a radically changed diet. Once I stopped drinking regularly, I discovered that it was easier to stop consuming dairy products, then after that came meats. Like Yoga, I looked at my diet as a "practice" and decided to approach it in layers: What do I feel like handling today?  Is it consistent with my intention?  

Before I knew it, I was eating and drinking more plants than I had in the first 40 years of my life.

And my sex drive and energy levels have shot through the roof, right back to where I was in my 20s. Of course, I wasn't changing my diet just for better sex.  I was changing it so I could live better each day, and not huff and puff as I went upstairs in my house.  I belong to some business groups, and I had been looking around the table at meetings at the 40-50-somethings in the room with their swelling midsections and double and triple chins.  I was already on my way toward joining them in poor health, and I decided to reject that direction.  So I devised what I now call the Better Sex Workout and Better Sex Diet: Start where it's easiest, and grab hold of each new level opportunistically.

When the erections started revisiting me, I also noticed I could last longer before climax.  My wife had only one question: "What happened to you?!" Now she and I are both enjoying our Omega Juicer (affiliate link to Amazon) every day. I now know that people committed to a plant-based diet have better sex than their carnivorous counterparts.  I started the Better Sex Workout and Better Sex Diet because I couldn't keep this a secret.

I've discovered some interesting facts along the way:

  • Researchers have discovered that certain foods cause a chemical reaction in the body that increases the libido in males and females. Foods with higher levels of zinc and vitamin B complexes are said to elevate testosterone levels and boost sexual desire. Some natural foods that are high in zinc and vitamin B are: avocado, almonds, asparagus, celery, and bananas, basil, figs, pine nuts, pumpkin seeds, and chickpeas
  • There isn't scientific evidence that a plant based or vegan diet enhances sexual attractiveness, but a vegan, plant-based diet typically results in losing weight, which changes the shape of our bodies. That, in turn, makes us more attractive to most people, be it sexually or just in general at work or school.
  • Many people, including your truly, suggest that a vegan diet changes the body’s general chemistry. Body secretions begins to smell, and even taste, sweeter. This is similar in principle to the concept of pheromones, 
  • In an online poll, 64% of participants stated that they experienced increased energy and vitality when on a plant-based diet versus their previous meat-eating diet. 

The bottom line is that your diet is a major factor in determining how good or bad your sex life is. Like anything, pursue the guidance of an expert when considering a plan-based diet. 

How Weight Lifting Helps You Enjoy Better Sex

If you want to enjoy Better Sex, you need to find balance.  The Better Sex Workout is a combination of the best things you can do for your body and mind, all in little adjustments.  If you put better food on your plate, your energy will skyrocket.  Take time to breath and relax, even on a brisk walk, and your head will clear.  Stretch regularly and you'll find more flexibility.  Get the picture?  No one exercise or food is a magic pill.

Looking for explosive energy in bed? Improved strength to try new and exciting positions? More explosive orgasms? Try adding weight lifting to your routine.

Research shows that both women and men who exercise feel better about their bodies and have more energy for sex.  Physical activity releases hormones, including endorphins and dopamine, both of which are believed to affect sex drive. And even better, working up a sweat literally increases sexual sensations almost from the start.  

In the world of Better Sex Workout exercises, weight lifting is a special animal. It's a proven fact that moderate weight lifting increases testosterone levels in men typically after six weeks and even in women usually in eight weeks. The hormone testosterone has amazing impact on both men and women. With increased testosterone levels men experience:

  • More frequent erections
  • Increasing sexual desire
  • Improved bone density
  • Greater muscle mass and strength

Women experiencing higher testosterone levels of moderate weight lifting experience:

  • More active sex drive
  • Increased sexual arousal
  • Improved moods that can lead to even higher sex drive
  • Higher energy levels
  • Increased bone density and muscle mass

In both men and women, testosterone reduces depression and chronic fatigue.  Feel too tired to have sex? Step into the gym or get a set of dumbbells. In fact, once you start a weight lifting practice, longer workouts can lead to release of other chemicals including endorphins and adrenaline, both of which cause a feeling of pleasure and well-being. Endorphins have been linked to increased sexual arousal in women and even in a woman's ability to experience female orgasm. Because stress is a major sexual inhibitor, and endorphins reduce stress, weight lifting is a major key to almost immediately starting to enjoy Better Sex.

Last word: Consult your doctor

If you happen to suffer from any medical condition, and intend to start weight lifting, it is always better to consult your doctor first. Discuss whether you need to take any precautions and follow his suggestions about whether you should lift weights, and also how you should go about starting.  Cheers and here's to much better sex ahead!

Better Sex Workout challenge rating: Intermediate to Advanced

 

Walking for Better Sex? Oh Yes!

Walking is one of the easiest ways to stay fit, and believe it or not, walking can help you on your path to much better sex! No matter how busy life, a moderate dose of physical exercise, even as low-key as walking, for 30 minutes (if you can’t manage that much, even 15 minutes is okay to begin with) a day is enough to keep you healthy. This form of aerobic activity can lift your mood, help make you physically fit, and improve the quality of your life.

Some walking basics

Wearing the right pair of walking shoes and comfortable clothes is really important. Also remember to carry and drink water while you walk, to hydrate yourself. Water by itself is refreshing, and in our overly busy world we tend to dismiss hydration, which causes all sorts of problems.  Besides, did you know that being well hydrated from drinking 6-8 glasses of water per day minimum actually affects a woman's vaginal lubrication, especially during sex, and also affects the quality and volume of a man's sperm? We weren't kidding when we said that there's a lot of better sex coming your way just from walking!

Walk for 15-20 minutes for the first three days, and then gradually increase the time. You can use a pedometer to count the steps you take.

Walk for Better Sex

A regular practice of brisk walking can improve your performance in bed. Walking two miles a day boosts blood circulation which cuts down on the risk of impotency, which, if you're a man, means your penis can get harder and even longer and for longer periods of time.  If you're a woman, it means more blood flow to your vagina, vulva and other sensitive parts, which means more stimulation and yes, that elusive female orgasm can be yours sooner!

The bottom line: You can be healthy and fit, and keep your love life active, full of better sex, medicine and drug-free.

Last word: Consult your doctor

If you happen to suffer from any medical condition, and intend to start walking, it is always better to consult your doctor first. Discuss whether you need to take any precautions and follow his suggestions about whether you should go for brisk walk, and also how you should go about starting.  Cheers and here's to much better sex ahead!

Better Sex Workout challenge rating: Beginner

Yoga as part of the Better Sex Workout

Practicing Yoga relieves stress, improves physical conditioning, and yes, it leads to much Better Sex!

Practicing Yoga relieves stress, improves physical conditioning, and yes, it leads to much Better Sex!

Yoga is much more than a path to zen. With regular practice, Yoga can help you enjoy better sex, even to the point of being able to achieve multiple female orgasm or male multiple orgasms.

Yoga makes you more flexible.  It also lowers stress and reduces anxiety. What's more, Yoga is a non-competitive practice (it's not even referred to as a sport). These principles make Yoga a great mind-body enhancer that can help anyone at any age and in any physical condition to improve their mind, body, and achieve their most authentic self in order to experience better sex.

There are five major ways that Yoga can improve your body and mind and can enable you to experience and enjoy better sex:

1. Flexibility: Many men and women who first start Yoga can't even reach their toes in a forward fold. After practicing Yoga for some time you may be able to accomplish unbelievable stretches comfortably.  Imagine being able to hug your leg to your chest and kiss your thigh. That flexibility makes it easy for the man to sling a woman's leg up and over his shoulder in order to achieve deeper penetration during intercourse, achieving greater stimulation of a woman's cervix. Sound rewarding? You can start practicing at a Yoga studio, or you can develop a home yoga practice that focuses especially on hip openers, pelvis openers, and groin stretchers.

2. Mula Bandha. A very good Yoga practice will including regularly strength-building poses that require you to exercise your mula bandha. Warrior poses, lunges, balancing poses and other standing poses force you to support your own body weight while twisting in one or more ways.  This contracts the muscle between your sphincter muscle and the muscle that controls urination, which essentially is the Yoga version of what we refer to as kegel exercises. When you regularly exercise your kegels, you can develop the ability to have stronger, more intense orgasms, and so can your partner if you squeeze him/her.

3. Yogasms. While Yogasms, the experience of a female orgasm during Yoga, has been a controversial subject over the past few years, we at the Better Sex Workout believe in Yogasms.   Working your mula bandha stimulates the muscles that can lead to improved orgasms. And what is more exciting is that Yoga  helps you build body awareness in a way that helps improve arousal. While this may be more physical arousal than mental arousal, Yoga definitely can lead to extreme arousal which can lead to better sex, including improved female orgasms and male orgasms, together (and maybe even simultaneously).

4. Mental Health. When you are angry, stressed or anxious or both, you're less likely to have sex. It's been reported that practicing yoga reduces all of the above, which can be a benefit to anyone, single, married, young, old, male or female. Yoga is about a lot more than just physical exercise. Yoga poses, breathing exercises, and meditation together affect your personal well-being and mental and physical states, which is a prerequisite for more and better sex.

5. Partner Yoga. Your sex partner doesn’t have to do yoga with you in order for your sex life to benefit. But if you are interested in improving intimacy in your relationship in additional to turbo-boosting your sex life, try partner yoga. Partner Yoga necessitates closeness and builds trust, and working out together can boost endorphins. Want some encouragement for you or your partner? Check out the video to the right.

A Last word: Consult your doctor

If you happen to suffer from any medical condition, and intend to start Yoga, it is always better to consult your doctor first. Discuss whether you need to take any precautions and follow his suggestions about whether you should try Yoga, and also how you should go about it.

Better Sex Workout challenge rating: Beginner to Advanced

The Better Sex Workout, and why we love sex

Sex is natural, sex is fun, and there are a lot of reasons to enjoy more of it.

The Better Sex Workout is here to help you, no matter what your age, gender or physical condition, be able to enjoy better sex, and hopefully become healthier, happier and your most authentic self. Better sex is just a major benefit of a more balanced, healthier lifestyle. And better sex can actually make better relationships and potentially help you become more successful in everything you do.

According to psychologists at UT-Austin who asked more than 1,500 undergraduate college students about their sexual attitudes and experiences, motivations usually fall into four main categories:

  1. Physical reasons: Pleasure, stress relief, exercise, sexual curiosity, or attraction to a person
  2. Goal-based reasons: To make a baby, improve social status (for example, to become popular), or seek revenge
  3. Emotional reasons: Love, commitment, or gratitude
  4. Insecurity reasons: To boost self-esteem, keep a partner from seeking sex elsewhere, or feeling a sense of duty or pressure (for example, a partner insists on having sex)

You may be searching for that elusive female orgasm, or if you're a man, you may be looking to improve your recovery time so you can go at it again (and hopefully help her achieve multiple orgasms). Or perhaps you're just looking to rekindle the fire in your relationship and be closer with one another.  Whatever your reasons, the Better Sex Workout can help you if you gain more knowledge and apply it responsibly, with your purpose in mind.

The Better Sex Workout can benefit almost anyone because it's focused on a balance of body and mind, not just a heart-pounding, body-pushing, limit-breaking physical workout. Physical exercise is still part of the Better Sex Workout, but there is much more to better sex at any age and any body condition. Better sex is about calm, focus, attention, happiness, and more. This is why the Better Sex Workout focuses on four key areas of each person's self:

  1. Intellectual: Your knowledge and awareness
  2. Physical: Exercise and diet
  3. Emotional: Your personal well-being and happiness
  4. Spiritual: NOT religion, but instead, your existential well-being

Small, incremental improvements to each and all of these areas in your life can enable you to improve all areas of your life, leading to greater calm, a more engaged and energized energy and body, and of course, much better sex.

Of course, we have to remind you that the Better Sex Workout is not a doctor-approved workout or diet.  You should always consult your licensed doctor and dietician before doing any workout. You are solely responsibility for your health, state of mind, your relationships, and your actions.  If you need medical assistance or are dealing with any condition, please see your doctor immediately.

If you're here to learn, then enjoy and have fun!  We love sex, we love life, and we're hoping we can help you along the way to live a more fulfilling and authentic life, and to enjoy much better sex!